Parenting an adopted child


Raising an adopted kid could be uneasy. And if you have decided to adopt a child you should take into account the problems you may face. If you have problems with an adopted child you just can’t refuse him. It is your kid and that’s it. So you should accept and treat an adopted child as your own. Actually you are the only one who bears responsibility. And all these examples when foster families refuse their adopted children are shameful. Needless to say that parenting an adopted child by beating him is beyond belief. Let’s see what are possible problems you may face raising an adopted kid.

The crucial moment is the situation when he finds out that you are not his real parent. And it could be difficult for all of you. Anyway it is an adequate reaction. Probably your kid would like to know who are his actual parents, what happened to them and why you decided to adopt him. Well, in the situation you should be supportive and patient. Avoid irritation or neglect. Sooner or later he would realize that you are his actual family. And it is the most important thing.

Having arguments with your adopted kid there is no point to emphasize you are not his biological parent. Actually you have brought up him and no one is responsible for the situation except you. Never ever say, “You are not my real child”! It would hurt his feelings and would repulse him undoubtedly. Be a friend to your kid no matter he is adopted or not. It is difficult but it was your choice. Do not expect him to be obedient, quiet or introverted. If you have adopted him it doesn’t mean he would be a prefect kid. So do not be too demanding. Children learn things by making mistakes. And if he fails doing something actually it should not be a problem.

If you have biological children as well then be fair with all your children. If you pay much attention to your biological kids while neglecting needs of your adopted kid then it would hurt his feelings also. It would repulse him. He would be angry with you and offended by it. It is very unfair to act like this. You should love and treat your kids equally. Your biological kids should respect their adopted sibling as well. And you should teach them it.

Be honest with your adopted child and let him be honest with you. And if you learn some unpleasant facts of his past try to be supportive and helpful. Try to understand him and accept things as they are. He shares with you all his fears because he trusts you. It is really important to realize. There is no sense to blame him or criticize for the mistakes he has made. You do not know what he had to come through living alone without family, love and appreciation. Definitely he would change for the better. Just let him do it.

Enhanced by Zemanta
Advertisements
Previous Post
Leave a comment

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: